The Book of the Song of Songs contains great poetry that celebrates sexual passion and pleasure. It describes, rather boldly I might add, the delights of sexual love in marriage. In the scripture text recommended for today, the woman boldly exclaims her physical attraction toward the man. It speaks of unabashed passion and love for each other.
God not only allows sex within marriage but strongly command it. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).
To term marriage as “one flesh,” means that sex is understood as both a sign of that personal, legal union and a means to accomplish it. The Bible says don’t unite with someone physically unless you are willing to unite with that person emotionally, personally, socially, economically, and legally. …..Then once you have given yourself in marriage, sex is a way of maintaining and deepening that union as the years go by.” (The Meaning of Marriage – Timothy Keller)
Sex is one of the most powerful way ordained by God to help couples express their giving of their entire self to each other. Sex is God’s appointed way for two persons to reciprocally say to one another, “I belong solely to you and to no one else, exclusively, permanently.” It is part and parcel of the marriage covenant. That is why it must be kept sacred, sanctified and pure.
Sexual intimacy, in the context of marriage, is the practical celebration of a God-honoring loving relationship.
(1) In what ways can you as a couple celebrate your physical marital union and intimacy without feeling ashamed, unworthy or embarrassed?
(2) In our Singaporean culture this is not a topic that is easy to discuss and explore. Nevertheless, we should find ways whereby married couples can find mutual support and encouragement as they journey together with other couples in this precious, yet crucial aspect of marriage. If you are a single person, how does this understanding of marriage change your view and attitude towards sex?
Dear Lord, help us to appreciate what you have created and given to married couples to enable them to share and express their deepest love for one another. Help us to not develop unhealthy or negative views about sex but keep our hearts committed to You and to each other so that we would be able to truly celebrate this gift in such a way that would truly glorify You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.